What would it take for you to call a day perfect? Is there something like a formula for a perfect day? I bet at least some of the ideas below are crossing your mind as you read this:
- Spending more time with your loved ones
- Having more friends
- Making more money
- Having more sex
- Being more appreciated at work!
I’m sorry to disappoint you, but I am willing to bet none of these ingredients can guarantee your happiness or make a day perfect. Have you noticed the “more” in every ingredient?
It is our main problem, the reason why our days are not perfect, the reason why we are never truly happy: no matter what we have, we always want “more,” because being happy is a state of mind. Not every day you can expect to go as perfect as you wished it to be neither there is a formula for it.
You need to learn to appreciate and genuinely enjoy what you have and make almost every day a perfect day to live. Contrary to general belief, happiness is not that difficult to attain.
What Is Your Idea Of A Perfect Day? Here Is How To Make Every Day Perfect!
Here Is What You Need to Be Happy!
According to research, these are the factors that boost or hurt our wellbeing and the highest level of happiness comes with:
- Family – Spending 6-7 hours a day with friends and family
- Friends – Having 10 or more friends and keeping in touch with them regularly
- Finances – Earning between $75,000 and $105,000 a year
- Relationships – Having sex at least once a week
- Worklife – Verbal appreciation and rewards at work
Do You Have What It Takes To Be Happy?
Now that you know what makes people happy take a look at your life, on your typical day.
- Do you spend 6-7 hours with your loved ones?
- How many friends do you have?
- The money that you earn is enough for you?
- How often do you have sex with your partner?
- How often does your boss praise your work or give you perks and bonuses?
Perhaps you do not yet live up to the standards reviewed above, but the important thing is that you can do something about it. Therefore, if you want your days to be perfect, instead of focusing on what your typical day is missing, focus on making it better without looking for a formula.
Moreover, everyone’s definition of a perfect day is different. Some might feel it was a perfect day for them when they helped someone who was in need. For someone reaching on time to the workplace can make his or her day perfect, and they might take it as a formula and try to achieve it frequently.
How to Turn Average Days Perfect in 5 Steps?
1. Make Time for Your Loved Ones
If you’re anything like me, you often wish your days were longer than 24 hours, to have time for everything you would like to do. However, you decide what you do with your 24 hours, and you should find a way to dedicate 6-7 hours of it to your family and friends.
If your current schedule doesn’t allow it, perhaps it is time to review it. Work probably eats most of your time, and you cannot skip it, as you need the money. However, I am willing to bet you waste a lot of precious time on social media and with other workplace distractions.
As far as social media is concerned, I’ve already given you seven reasons to take a break from social media in a previous post. The most important reasons for them are that
- You will feel depressed.
- It is a common workplace distraction.
- The relationships will take a hit.
- Furthermore negatively impacts your self-esteem.
Other workplace distractions you should avoid to save time, besides social media, are phone calls, gossip, co-workers, and internet use. With distractions out of the way, your productivity will improve, you will be able to finish your work sooner, and you will have more time to spend with your loved ones.
2. Keep Your Friends Close
If you have more than ten friends, dividing your time between all of them is probably tricky. Instead of focusing on how many friends you have, I think you should focus on growing and enjoying your friendships. As I was writing a while ago, you should be picky with your friends and only share your time and energy with those who are worth it.
If you don’t know how to nurture and grow your friendship with them, perhaps my post on Five Life-Changing Things You Can Do with Your Friends will help. Besides bringing you closer, these activities will also help you relax and have fun.
3. Boost Your Income
As mentioned above, research shows that the income associated with the highest level of happiness ranges between $75,000 and $105,000. If you already make this much money, congratulations are in order, and you should start displaying some of that happiness.
If your income is higher, donating to the less fortunate could be a great way to get back within standards. Helping others is very rewarding so that it can contribute to your long sought-after happiness.
If your income is low, perhaps you can increase it by eliminating distractions and boosting productivity. Just remember that the amounts above are relative, and money is as important as you allow it to be.
I grew up in a very low-income family but surrounded by love. I had few but reliable friends with whom I used to share everything. Some of our colleagues spent fortunes in nightclubs and on luxury vacations.
We used to gather in a small apartment and put together all the money we had to afford a pizza and a bottle of Coke. However, the slice of pizza and the glass of Coke each of us got were the best in the world. Because we enjoyed them together and we had the time of our lives.
As I was writing in a previous post on ways to save money, instead of making a long list of things you want and trying to cover it with your paycheck, focus on your bare necessities. Once you’ve covered them, you can think of small pleasures and side projects.
Otherwise put, instead of giving up the idea to build a house because you can’t afford to cover its price overnight, start laying its foundation brick by brick. It may take some time, but the house will still be yours one day.
4. Boost Your Sex Life
Indeed, statistics show that people who have sex at least once a week are happier than those who enjoy the activity with a lower frequency. However, you need to understand that sex is not a condition for happiness by itself, but an expression of couple happiness.
Forcing your loved one to the bedroom or counting how many wild nights you have every week or month won’t bring you happiness. Building a solid and rewarding relationship in which love, respect, and physical attraction go hand in hand will.
Sex has to come naturally, to be something you both desire and enjoy to bring happiness. If you want that to happen, make time for your loved ones, talk to them, listen to them, and be there for them no matter what. Try to look and feel at your best around them, and they won’t be able to resist you.
5. Make Yourself Appreciated at Work
When you think that your work is not appreciated at its real value, your motivation and your self-esteem pay the bill. However, before you start throwing stones at your boss, take a look around you and make sure you stand out from the crowd.
Give Your Best And Expect The Least
Many employees nowadays expect rewards just for doing the minimum required of them. If you fit the description, perhaps it is time to change your attitude. If you want to see appreciation and rewards, make yourself irreplaceable first!
Become the heart and soul at your workplace, set an example for your colleagues, and impress your employer. If they don’t react, you can confront them, ask for a raise, or start looking for another job. Just remember that, in nowadays market, no news is good news. If they don’t criticize you, it probably means they’re happy with your work.
As a freelance writer, I work with several clients. At one point, having more work than I could handle, I decided to give up the client who seemed less satisfied. To my surprise, when I announced my intention, instead of complaining or sending me to hell, he asked what he could do to keep our collaboration going and offered to pay 50% more.
I’m not saying all employers or clients will do that. I’m just saying that you shouldn’t let praise or their absence define your work, your worth, or your happiness. If you’re not sure how your employer sees your work, confront them. Ask them for an evaluation, and your instincts will tell you exactly where you stand.
Is the Glass Half Empty or Half Full?
I hope you’ll take the above advice into account and focus on building happiness day by day instead of expecting it or crying for it. I hope you’ll learn to love and enjoy imperfections than live your life chasing perfection. If you analyze there is nothing called a perfect day formula.
Just remember that:
- Remember when you curse having to drive or take the subway to work, others walk for miles for a few gallons of water.
- Even with a small headache, you might go off-balance, but some are there who go through surgery, chemo, and radiation trying to steal a few more days.
- Whenever you fight with your loved ones over nothing, others take flowers to their loved ones’ graves.
Be Happy With What You Have
Instead of focusing on the reasons why a day wasn’t perfect, focus on the things that can make it feel closer to perfection. Every day when you are not in pain, you have something to eat, clothes to put on, a shoulder to cry on, and a place to call home should be perfect.
When you feel some things could go better, remember how much worse they could get. I bet your day will suddenly feel perfect! If it doesn’t, there’s nothing a friendly chat and a strong cup of coffee or glass of red wine can’t solve.
Seriously, what is your idea of a perfect day? Does it still coincide with the one you had when you started reading this post? Share your vision in a comment and challenge your friends to do the same!
Perhaps your perceptions will coincide, and you can enjoy a perfect day together. Look for ways and ask yourself “how can I be happy” and then involve yourself in those activities which make you happy.
What according to you are the ideas of a perfect day? Leave behind your comments below. We love to hear from you! Don’t forget to subscribe to us and stay tuned for our bi-weekly newsletter.