Did you know that about 40 to 50% of married couples end up taking a divorce? And the rates of divorce among subsequent marriages are even higher. To maintain a successful marriage or a lasting relationship, you have to put in a lot of work to get things done as a team. With this, there’s usually a lot of sacrifices and compromises. Don’t confuse sacrifice vs compromise. The core difference between sacrifice and compromise is that compromise requires both partners to come to a middle ground, whereas sacrifice mainly involves one individual to give up completely on a particular thing. Sacrifice in a marriage or a committed relationship is indeed necessary to some extent. However, sacrificing too much for a relationship can do more harm than good. How much and what are the things you can sacrifice for a relationship to work is critical.
You will not make it in a long-lasting relationship if you do not learn the art of giving and take.
You’re two separate people coming from distinct upbringing and thought processes trying to come together to make up something new that’s your own together.
With that being said, there’s a time and limit for everything. There are times where you’ll need to be a flexible compromise, and there are times you will need to hold your ground and stand firm in what you believe in. There’s a balance that you need to maintain. There are some things that no matter how much in love you are, you should not be sacrificing for the sake of your relationship.
So, how do you know what to sacrifice and what not? You must also look for signs if you’re in an unhealthy relationship.
Things You Must Not Sacrifice In A Relationship
1. Never Sacrifice Your Dreams For A Relationship
There is never a time that not chasing your dreams because your partner doesn’t like them is a thing that’s acceptable. Relationships should have support. Your significant other should be your backbone and support system. They should be pushing you towards your dreams and goals. If they are discouraging you or pulling you back, they probably don’t deserve you.
You should be holding onto and continuing to chase your dreams, regardless of the fact that you are in a relationship until and unless your goal is illegal or harmful to yourself or others. Then, you may want to consider listening to your partner.
Otherwise, even if those dreams are seemingly impossible, your partner should be in your corner, not on the other side of the ring. Remember that someone who loves you wants to see all of your dreams realized just as much as you do.
2. Your Family
According to PsychologyToday, a lot of times, a partner trying to keep you from your family is a sign of someone who is controlling and possibly abusive.
I have seen relationships where a partner will keep their significant other from their family, and that is definitely not okay. Even if your family isn’t the greatest, they’re your family.
Now, if your family makes you miserable and cry all of the time and your significant other suggests spending less time with them, that might be a move made just because they love you and don’t like seeing you hurt.
But if you have a good relationship with your family, that shouldn’t change due to your relationship.
Read also: Why Family Is Everything?
3. Being the Only One
It doesn’t matter how much you care about someone. If you desire a monogamous relationship, you don’t ever allow anything less.
Especially in a marriage, do not ever sacrifice having someone’s whole heart by sharing it with countless others. No single relationship is worth that.
4. Your Self-Worth
Your self-esteem is majorly important and must not be sacrificed in any relationship. It has an impact on everything that you do in life. People already tend to be their own worst enemy and their most prominent critic so if your partner is always making you feel worse or bad about yourself, let them go.
No man or woman who claims to care about you should be attacking your self-esteem and confidence.
How you feel about yourself, of course, shouldn’t be decided based on how others think about you, but someone you love putting your down over and over can affect your self-worth, and that is a particular no-compromise zone.
5. Time For Yourself & Personal Space
In the beginning stages, you may be all up under each other all happy and in love. That’ great and perfectly normal for the honeymoon stage, but after a while, you may want some quiet time or some alone time, and that is an important time to have.
It doesn’t matter if you’re alone time is going out with friends, going out completely by yourself, or reading a book on the patio. You give yourself space if that’s what you need. By denying your space, your partner isn’t treating you well enough.
This is another sign of someone who may be controlling, or it could be a sign of insecurity.
We are all individuals, and sometimes we all need some “me time.”
Respect is something that shouldn’t be sacrificed or even compromised in any situation with anyone, especially your romantic relationship. Your significant other is supposed to love you and respect you the most.
Even when my partner and I are on bad terms and angry with each other, we speak to each other with self-control and show each other proper respect.
Read this: Signs That Your Partner Respects You
How someone treats you is a reflection of how they feel about you, so if they don’t respect you, they probably don’t care about you, and you should perhaps be letting that relationship go.
7. Who You Are
In every relationship, you want someone to love you for who you are, not who you pretend to be. In an ideal marriage or relationship, your partner should push you to challenge yourself and improve, but they should never be pushing you to change who you are.
The other day my partner looked me in my eyes and addressed in the most adorable way, “You’re so weird…”.
He was reacting to a mini happy dance I was doing in the kitchen for my food (I’m not the only one who does that, am I?) and I couldn’t help but smile because it’s my natural self that he finds so beautiful.
No one who loves you will try to diminish who you are, and you should never be willing to be anybody but yourself in your relationships.
So, while it is true that it takes compromises for a relationship to work, it is also true that the core of who you are and what you believe in should never be compromised for any reason. Relationship or not. What are some things that you don’t think should be compromised in a relationship? Comment down below and let us know!
Key TakeAway For Things You Should Never Sacrifice For A Relationship
Sacrifice vs Compromise
The core difference between sacrifice and compromise is that compromise requires both partners to come to a middle ground, whereas sacrifice mainly involves one individual to give up completely on a particular thing.
- Sacrifice in a marriage or a committed relationship is indeed necessary to some extent. However, sacrificing too much for a relationship can be harmful in the long run.
- You should never sacrifice your dreams for a relationship or marriage. In contrast, your partner must support you and help you achieve your goals.
- Never give up on your family members just for the sake of your relationship.
- Your significant other should love you and respect you the most. If that’s not the case, its time you start working on it and talk to your partner about how you feel about it.
- We all need some “me time” and personal space. This is something you must not sacrifice in any relationship even in a marriage with kids.
- If your partner is always making you feel worse or bad about yourself, let them go.
- Respect is something you must never sacrifice in a marriage and in fact any relationship. How someone treats you is a reflection of how they feel about you. If they don’t respect you, they probably don’t care about you. Don’t let anybody treat you poorly.
What are the things you think one must not sacrifice in a relationship? Share your thoughts in the comments section. You can now hit subscribe and stay tuned for our newsletter. Follow our social media channels to see interesting updates and articles.