Marriage requires effort, dedication, and love, but it also necessitates respect to be truly happy and successful. It takes a lot of effort to build a marriage based on love and respect. Both partners must contribute and sometimes even sacrifice to be in a happy relationship. Here are some critical points to focus on each day in order to make your marriage successful. “Happy Married life is a Myth” is what you will get to hear from most of the married couples a few years down the line, and then they will start the plethora of this and that, why, and when, and so on!
Rather than a happy married life, It is a beautiful married life that holds laughter, tears, disagreements, patch-ups, trips, laying on the couch, late-night dinner, too early morning tea, a story of a lifetime.
Marriage starts with ‘M’ but is laid on the foundation of ‘A.’ Let’s figure it out.
What Is The Recipe For A Successful Marriage?
1. A Little Bit Of Appreciation
After the big fat wedding, the uncle-aunties stuffing your mouth with delicacies, the traveling, the adrenaline-filled love, you finally settle down to routine life. A life that starts with a cup of tea in the morning proceeds with a simple home-cooked meal, a little bit of time spent together in evening strolls, and sleeping peacefully by each other’s side at night. The initial days of this routine are filled with love, gratitude, but eventually, when it becomes mundane, we forget to appreciate the little things that add sweetness and spice to life.
Someday take a few seconds to appreciate that little cup of tea in the morning. Imagine how your day would be if the refreshing chai didn’t start your day. Someone wakes up in the morning early to make your start of the day a little better.
Someday take a few seconds to appreciate the simple home-cooked meal. A lot of love goes into cooking. And eventually appreciate the compassion and empathy of your better half, who simply gulps down morsels of extra salty, sometimes too spicy, and sometimes a little bland food smilingly as if this was the best meal ever.
Someday appreciate the fact that there is always one person waiting for you at home. Coming back to an empty house is not a great feeling always. Someday simply appreciate that you at least have someone to come back to; someone is looking forward to you coming back. So step into your home, and keep the bags of worries and office stress outside at the doorstep.
2. A Little Bit Of Acknowledgement
Even when the world doesn’t understand you, when everyone questions your intentions and doubts your abilities when you yourself fail to hold scattered pieces of your confidence together, that very moment a little acknowledgment works wonders for you and makes you believe in yourself. You know someone is out there for you, acknowledging the hard work you put through the day.
And it only takes a few minutes of your day to acknowledge how two wonderful people have come together to make beautiful memories of married life. There are days when you feel lost when things don’t go as planned when the world doesn’t seem to be a nice place. Still, then with all this baggage, you come back home to that one person for whom you are everything from dawn to dusk, and that emotion of acknowledgment is a little cornerstone holding your confidence in yourself intact.
Acknowledge your spouse, who understands how you manage to wake up and stand up against the tide every day just for the family.
Acknowledge your spouse who quietly understands your feelings, gives you space when you need it, and stands by your side when you look for it. At the end of the day, two normal people acknowledge the value of each other in the story of married life.
The story of a successful and healthy marriage life does not include ‘Taken for Granted.’
3. A Little Bit Of Acceptance
Two different people, with different minds, different upbringing, and a world of similarities and dissimilarities. Sometimes it’s like clash of the titans, and fierce SPARTA is for a ride.
But with a little acceptance, you can hold the horses of your Spartan warrior intact. Not everyone is perfect, not everyone is organized all the time, not everyone is good at handling financial interests, and not everyone is good at being the jack of all trades. So it is fine.
Accept that your loved one is an average person, blended with weird habits, sometimes messy and gullible, occasionally opinionated and funny, sometimes cranky, or ambivalent, sometimes cut-throat-on-your-face all of these ultimately making them human.
Accept their flaws, don’t judge them. Everyone is different, and they have different ways of doing things. Just because they do it differently does not make their way of approaching things questionable. Accept the person the way they are and don’t try to change them as per your thoughts and approaches in life.
Acceptance is a two-way road. The more you give, the more your receive
4. A Little Bit Of Agreeing To Apologize
When two plates are kept together, they sometimes collide and make noise. But, unfortunately, a little noise also stirs up in a married household when discussions turn into disagreements and a series of blame-game and “I did not forget what you did last summer” kind of allegations.
We are humans at the end of the day. We sometimes lose patience and raise our voices, we sometimes lack empathy and say hurtful things, and we sometimes become selfish and willing to ignore the pain of others.
Work-related stress, lack of patience, tiredness, and lack of empathy slowly create ripples in the sea of life and follow a complete dead silence.
All it takes is ‘SORRY’ to break the silence, to start talking again, to mend the broken bridge.
Why is it so difficult to be humble enough to say sorry? It is because we indulge in meaningless selfish behavior of keeping our egos intact.
Marriage is for two people. There is no space for a third-person’ Ego.’ And a little note of agreement to let go of the ego and apologize when you are wrong is what matters in the story of married life. Of course, sometimes nobody is wrong, it is just a different perspective, but someone has to start, say the first word, and start the conversation. And maybe a little ‘sorry’ can help.
A single word ‘sorry’ communicates a million emotions, emotions that show you care, and you appreciate and value this relationship beyond boundaries of ego and pride.
5. A Little Bit Of Sorry And A Glass Full Of Love
The story of married life is all about staying together, accepting each other’s strengths and weaknesses, and working together as a team. It just takes few minutes of your day, a little bit of your effort, and few little notes.
Tips To Make A Marriage Successful And Healthy
Marriage takes time, work, effort, love, passion, and everything in between. The couple we label as “Relationship Goals” also have to do the work to make their marriage a success. it is no rocket science to understand that no couple is “perfect.” All humans have their own set of flaws. It is the willingness of couples in a successful and healthy marriage to help each other, overlook their partner’s flaws, forgive the mistakes one makes, and move forward together.
Arguments are a part of life. No matter how much two people love each other, arguments are bound to happen because couples might not agree on every decision. In such a case, it requires them to make efforts and solve the problem together.
The following tips can help make your marriage healthy and successful:
4 Pillars of A Healthy & Happy Marriage
Some things are essential in a marriage to make it healthy, happy, and successful. And without the presence of these factors, a marriage can end badly between a couple. Four important things that make a marriage healthy and happy are:
Commitment requires more than just a desire to stay together endlessly. It’s the act of selecting a life partner and pledging to share all of life’s ups and downs with them. While there is plenty of fish in the sea, being married signifies you are fully committed to making the relationship work, dispelling any fears that this is merely a test run.
While most couples begin their relationships in love, it takes effort, sacrifice, and generosity to keep that passion for each other alive. True love is prioritizing your mate and selflessly offering without expecting anything in return. It also aids in accepting each other for who you are, flaws and all, and forgiving each other when you fail.
Even the most natural expressions of love are insignificant if the marital partners do not respect one other. Respecting your partner’s talents, ideas, and abilities involves not only accepting but also admiring their differences. Respect can also help you in attending to each other’s perspectives and overcoming obstacles and arguments.
Trust is the building block of a marriage. You will feel comfortable, protected, and supported if you trust your husband or wife. Because marriage is a lifelong commitment, it’s critical to know that you’re marrying someone you can trust with your ideas, feelings, and concerns.
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So your perfect dish is ready. Taste every bit of your marriage and try to bring the best out of your partner. The best partner is not the one who prays, cares, and loves you but who discovers the best in you.
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Key Takeaways On What Makes A Successful Marriage
What Are Some Qualities Of A Successful Marriage?
Some qualities of a successful marriage are:
Some Tips For A Healthy Marriage?
Partners together make a marriage healthy. They fight not against each other but the problems. For couples to have a healthy marriage, it should always be “Us against the problem,” and not “you against me.” Some tips for a healthy marriage are: