How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over?

Did you know that your life was in YOUR hands? No, no really. Did you also know that it is very likely that the reason why you’re not fulfilling what you dream is that YOU’RE in your world of beliefs? Crazy, right? I bet you didn’t know that if you’re unhappy with your life, you actually can do something about it. I will NOT shut up because it’s true!

Mel Robbins in her Ted Talk on Youtube said it just: “In five seconds flat, self-doubt can take over and rob you of your power, and rob you of joy, and rob you of potential.” I had to mull over these words for a couple of days because I realized just how true they were. Half the time, your misery is of your own making, and your lack of attained dreams is due to, you screwing over yourself.

So, How Do We Stop Screwing Ourselves Over?


It is simple, but it is NOT easy. So if you were looking for a quick fix to your problem, you could let that one go because automatic fixes to life’s problems are not a thing. However, if you’d like to see what you can do to stop screwing yourself over and achieve everything you are capable of delivering, let’s get into this post!

1. Take time for yourself

​I feel like self-care is one of the most talked-about things in the blogging and Youtube world. Everyone is always speaking on face masks and bubble baths, but have you ever just sat and thought about how important this is?

Time for yourself doesn’t still have to be a pamper and spa (although that is always nice), but sometimes it is just stopping and not overworking yourself until you’re drained and tired of being in your skin.

Yes, we have to work hard to accomplish our goals, but if you slave away trying to make a passion a career, there is a good chance you will lose your love and never actually attain that dream.

No overworked and stressed individual is happy, even if their dream comes true.

They don’t enjoy it because they never took time for themselves to be able to look back and say they enjoyed the journey.

2. Stop taking other people’s crap

It is perfectly okay to be nice, in fact, it is preferred. Did you know that it is also okay (and sometimes even necessary) to put yourself first? I am guilty of this so trust me; I know it’s not easy to do. Some of us are people pleasers, and we will go out of our way to make other people happy even if it means holding ourselves back or ruining our mood a little bit.

A lot of times we let others bend our arms into doing things we don’t want to.

The truth is, you don’t have to take a job that you hate doing. You don’t have to do your friend that favor despite how much it inconveniences you just because they asked.

Every decision you make is up to you.

You don’t have to let ANYONE take up your time, money, or thoughts in a way that you would deem unpleasant. All that does is wear and tear your joy and productivity, and that my friend, is screwing yourself over big time.

3. Pay attention to your relationships

​I had to do this recently because I realized that there were people in my life that were holding me back from my joy and the future I envision for myself. Make sure that whoever you’re surrounding yourself with isn’t an anchor to your ankles. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve known a person; you are not doing yourself any favors keeping people into your life who don’t have any good qualities to contribute to it.

I had to let go of a very long time friend recently, and although it did hurt at first, within a couple of weeks, I discovered I was genuinely happier. I felt as if a weight was off of my shoulders and I no longer cringed when my phone rang because I knew it wasn’t that particular person calling. I found myself in the mood to be productive more often because there was no one draining me of my positive energy.

Be mindful of all of the influences in your life and how they are influencing you. If they don’t promote productivity or bring constant negative vibes, aren’t you screwing yourself allowing that relationship to continue?

4. Do what you can with what you have

​This philosophy is something I repeat to myself on a regular basis now, thanks to my beloved boyfriend who used to repeat it to me whenever I was down on myself about my dreams. What I am about to say is essential, so please read carefully.

Circumstances will NEVER be perfect, and the planets will not all suddenly align in favor of your dreams. Life will never only be sunshine and rainbows. You will NOT always feel like moving forward, and sometimes bad things are going to happen.

YOU have to make your dreams come true with the tools in front of you whatever those tools are.

The point is to start NOW. Find your joy. Make your dreams come true with whatever you can.

You want to be a Youtuber, but don’t have a camera or tripod? I suggest you balance a phone on some books and get to recording. You cannot let circumstances be an excuse as to why you are not taking steps towards living your best life. Do you remember watching those different cartoons as a kid where people like Dora, the explorer or Mickey Mouse would use the most random objects to save the day?

These are life lessons people!

At the end of the day, it’s your choice. You can choose to stop screwing yourself over. Take charge of your life and grab hold of your destiny. Don’t let people, circumstances, or yourSELF get in the way. Do you find yourself screwing yourself over? Do you have suggestions on how to stop that I didn’t mention? Are you ready to start taking some of these steps and apply them to your life and stop screwing yourself over? Comment below!

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Rikki is a blogger and writer who is all about self-empowerment, positivity, and growth. She loves writing and inspiring people. She has her personal blog and YouTube channel. It's her passion to help people and Rikki loves doing it!