Trying to succeed as a businesswoman or an influencer or anything as such takes mighty hard work. There so many different things that come into play. It’s even harder when you just happened to be an introvert who is not well-practiced at being social or regularly talking to people.
As an entrepreneur or just any person, you may find yourself in positions where you need to socialize with those around you. I have been there, as well. As a matter of fact, before beginning a business online, I was probably one of the most antisocial people that you can ever come across.
However, many introverted people learned how to be social for their business. Some people learn how to be social just for the sake of being social. If you have an introverted personality, it may not be an easy thing to do, but it’s definitely possible. It takes a certain amount of courage to want to get out of your comfort zone and become more of a social person.
I want you to also keep in mind that being an introvert is not a personality defect.
There are famous people all over the world who are introverts. It doesn’t mean anything is
wrong with you. People like Rosa Parks, Bill Gates, and even Albert Einstein were textbook
introverts and made a huge difference in the world. Being an introvert only means that you are slightly shy, or you prefer to be alone instead of being around a crowd of people and having the attention on you.
So, don’t think that being an introvert means that you are somehow less likely to be successful than anybody else. All that means is that there are certain skills that you will want to grasp and get slightly out of your comfort zone.
Being social doesn’t have to be stressful as we make it out to be. You don’t have to put
yourself in a series of panic attacks to become more social. It won’t happen overnight, but becoming more social can be accomplished if you take the right steps. What are those steps? I thought you’d never ask.
Tips on How To Improve Your Social Skills In Real Life
1. Take Baby Steps
I know that when you realize you want to be a more sociable person, there is a part of you that wants to go out there and do it. Motivation can cause you just to run full throttle into something. However, when people who are not used to being social throw themselves into an overly social situation too fast, they tend to have things like:
- anxiety attacks
- panic attacks
- and the entire night ends up being a disaster.
So don’t rush into it. You’ll end up drained and never want to do it again. Start by doing something small or simple.
Say hello to a stranger and start a conversation with them at a coffee house. Wave at someone that you don’t know.
You do not have to immediately go to a rave and dance with many people you don’t know to start this process. Start by dipping your toe in the water before you dive headfirst.
2. Go out more often
Again, I am not telling you to go clubbing. I am not telling you to go to the biggest party that you can find. One of the best ways to become more social is to put yourself in slightly more social situations.
Go out to a restaurant with just you and a couple of friends. Go to a museum by yourself, and don’t avoid eye contact with other people.
People may speak to you at some point, and that will be the perfect time for you to practice.
It may be awkward or uncomfortable at first, but the more you put yourself around people, the more comfortable with being around people you become.
3. Work on yourself
Personally, I think that self-development is the answer to everything. You become more successful in every area of your life, and that includes being more social.
The more you work on yourself, the more confident you become, and then the more you find that you were able to be social without freaking out.
4. Practice makes perfect
As I said, there’s no reason to rush anything. The more you put yourself in the face of other people, the easier it’ll become.
One thing that helped me when I was extremely introverted and unable to speak to strangers with practicing talking in the mirror.
Yes, if somebody were to catch you doing that, he would probably look a little bit crazy, but in the long run, you will find that you don’t have such a hard time finding words because you practice beforehand.
5. Have set alone time to recharge
Introverts are the type of people that need alone time. I know that you want to be more social, and I applaud you because making connections with people can be extremely useful.
However, for this not to drain you or overwhelm you, you have to make sure that you are taking time to be by yourself.
Schedule time, an entire day if you need to, to be with yourself without the pressures
of having to converse with other people. Being alone has become extremely important to
me, and I value my alone time because it recharges me, so the next time I am around, people don’t feel like such work.
A Word From Alignthoughts,
Being social especially as an introverted person is quite the task to take on. It took me quite some time and quite a bit of practice before I was able to truly become a natural social butterfly.
However, learning to conquer your lack of social skills is important. There is zero correlation between being the best talker and having amazing ideas. There is a lot of correlation between having great ideas and being able to express them to others.
What tips do you have for being social? If you are an introvert who isn’t used to being in social situations, what is making you want to change that?
Is there anything that I listed that you think will be helpful for you? Leave your comments down below!
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